It’s been an exciting time over the last few days. There’s one thing I can’t talk about yet, but of course, I will let you know as soon as I can. What I can tell you is I’ve received three invitations to give talks about my writing journey. I find it hard to believe anyone would be interested in my experience, but every author’s journey is different.
The first talk won’t be far from where I live, so I’m hoping it will generate enough sales to cover the cost of petrol. It’ll be nerve-racking as I haven’t stood before an audience for quite a while. The pandemic knocked my confidence. A friend has given me some advice on what to talk about, so I’m hoping the audience will find what I have to say both interesting and helpful. This particular audience can be outspoken, which has made me feel quite nervous, but I do hope they will be respectful of others while they are speaking and only give their opinions afterwards.

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I find it quite rude when people speak over others while someone is speaking. Sometimes people need a second to process their thoughts and find the right words. In this high-speed world of instant downloads, people like me need a faction longer to think. I’m sure this is why the world has become a stressful place. I used to speak quietly, taking my time before speaking my thoughts aloud. Over the years, I found people began to talk over me, finishing my unspoken sentences or trying to predict what I was about to say.
When I was young, I would let it go. Hold my peace, nod and smile. People would treat me as though I was stupid or didn’t have anything worthy to say. I became a listener. You learn a lot by listening to others. Now in my sixties, I find it annoying when others talk for or over me. It’s just plain rude. For years, I’ve had my confidence eroded by others not holding their tongue for a second to allow me to finish speaking. I started to raise my voice and talk faster to get out what I wanted to say before I was interrupted. The only problem with this is people accuse me of shouting. So once again my confidence leaves me feeling embarrassed and flustered as I muddle my words.

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The opportunity to give a book talk is scary, but I shall do my best. In May, the book talks are to a writing group. The feedback I received from the May talk will help prepare me for the September one. In September, my husband and I travel to Scotland as I’m one of the guest speakers at a book festival. The local library contacted me this week about doing a talk, but they haven’t come back yet to say when or where. Now I shall get busy planning what to say, putting together a checklist, writing some information sheets, ordering bookmarks to go with my books and ordering in stock.

I will of course keep you up to date on how I get on.

Thank you for dropping by and leaving a comment.


    1. Congratulations on those 3 invitations! Keep this in mind, you were asked to do them because what you have to say is considered important by the askers or you wouldn’t have been invited. You’re going to be fabulous!

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  1. Hello Paula,
    I’ve had some experience in public speaking ( not related to my writing, unfortunately), and I’m always nervous .
    However the more I practice and prepare, the less nervous I become and a hint of confidence comes along.
    I always try to involve the audience from the outset, make them feel wanted and part of the action. One way of doing this is to open with a Question and throw in a few more depending on the reaction.
    Hope this might help you relax and enjoy the wonderful opportunity.

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  2. Congratulations! I’m sure your talk will be a great success. I gave a talk for the very first time last year and was very nervous about it. Husband told me to remember that I was the expert on my books so I would know what I was talking about! So just remember that if you are talking about yourself and your books, YOU are the expert! All the best xx

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  3. Congratualtions on landing some guest speaker engaements. It really is the best way to get the word out about your books. I know someone else suggested this but just be yourself. Pretend you are chatting with a friend. I now use a powerpoint presentation and for some reason, that alleviates some of the nervousness. (for me anyway). I still ad lib in between slides and always ask questions. I agree, people who talk over others and finished your sentences are just plain rude. .

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      1. Great idea. They love having something to take away with them. Yes, you soon learn what works and what doesn’t. Also every audience is different. My talks are often to kids so I have to gear it to them.

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